just thought i would write about this particular issue cause am in the midst of a conversation wif a fren on the very same topic...

i guess i should reverse abit and actually explain wat i am talking about hey....

it is the age old question of whether we should let fate lead us to our destiny or should we go out and take on the world (as the saying goes) and make our "own" destiny...

i for one am a firm believer in doing things to get the proverbial ball rolling...while the fren is one of those who is waiting for mr prince charming to come ridng with the sun setting behind him and sweeping her off her feet...geez i am soo full of those darn cliches today!!!

but anywayz...thru much pondering and endless (useless??) discussions, i have worked out that the main reason y i dont eva just sit on my butt and wait for the guy to make the move is cause i am impatient. if i know that there is chemistry, y should i wait...but then of course, it makes me wonder if this is the reason y none of the my past relationships seem to eva work out? it alwayz ends in tears..but then it either ends in u getting married or in tears and seeing as i have no ring on my finger, it could only end the other way rite!!!

but of course, does that mean by my "trying to give a helping hand" i have actually stuffed it up? maybe start/push a relationship that maybe wasnt suppose to happen into fruitation, but because it "wasnt meant to be" only bought heartache upon myself?

but then we should look on the other proverbial side of the coin....wat about from the guys point of view? i mean if they are interested then they do the chasing...so isnt that the same as "giving a helping hand" to fate or wateva??

so i guess the question here is:

1.how many relationships out there (whether it be marriage or long term) have resulted from one or the other party "giving chase" and the second party eventually succoming?
2.and how many have been from so called fate...ie, it was a chance meeting, their eyes met and it was instant love (lust?).